Faces of a Liar

Lies has been a part of a human life. Checking back on history, Adam was also the first person who lied and theoritically because of that, was thrown out from the Garden of Eden. This has passed through all the generations and somewhat spread through to everybody. Everybody has their own reasons for being a liar. Some good, some bad and some are even saying it not to hurt anybody. But is it a good thing? Is it justifiable? Is it reasonable? Or is it because everybody are afraid to tell the truth and the fact that lies on it. Sooner or later liars get stomped on because the truth will out whether it is tomorrow or next year or the next decade. Each lie leaves a trail. And the most unfortunate thing of all is that lies tend to have infinite lives!

Liars have to lead a difficult, if not impossible, life. They merely live in a fantasy. They hide their sins and their transgressions in a cloud and web of lies. They have to remember each and every detail about their lies, to whom they told them and why they told them. They spend their lives looking over their shoulders to see if any of the lies are catching up with them. They are always on the run; trying to outrun their lies! A liar leads a most miserable and horrible life.

Reasons why they are lying? Well it could be because (1) a liar doesn't like himself/herself as a person, (2) they consider their accomplishments inadequate, (3) they cannot stomach or accept the truth about whatever (4) they are afraid of the truth and (5) they cannot stomach the consequences of the truth. I could go on but you get the point. I read on to this article made by Pierre A. Rinfret and found some profiling of the liars which might help us categorized some of the people we know or had jumped in to us with a lie.

Perpetual Liar

This are the most difficult liar that you will encounter. This liar is one of those people who had great brain, and basing on an IQ tests are incredibly Genius. These people lies about anything. Important or unimportant, basically everything. Its like they had used to it and had lived with it. You could not believe anything at all of what he said. If he said that he called you X times in a day (after you had not talked to him in months) you knew he never made a single call at all.

Dangerous Liar

Dangerous liar (they are, of course, all dangerous) is the one that lies only about major or important facts. This is the kind of person that lies about his education, his studies, his degrees, his background, his family, his prior jobs, his war (or military) experiences, facts of all kinds, if he is in an argument and whatever suits him at the moment.

Political Liar

The political liar is legend. Political liars do not care one iota, one bit, one scintilla about the truth or the actual facts. They argue strictly on the basis of their emotions and their concept of what is "right" and what is "justice." We have all met them. They are the worst kind and it is hopeless to argue or debate them because they "know" and they lie and make up facts to suit whatever argument. The worst are of course, the media who lie and cheat to the ultimate and they have zero conscience and less responsibility. All they care about is winning no matter how they win.It is NOT how the game is played which to them is idealistic nonsense. All they care about is WINNING, no matter how, including lying and cheating to the extreme. Lying and cheating are pretty much the same thing, aren't they?

Social Engineering Liar

The social engineering liar is among the most dangerous because they want to change the social order according to their vision of what it should be. They lie about anything and everything and the worst of all is that they are self righteous about their lying. When they can't win a social argument with facts they resort to emotionalism (another form of lying). And when the emotionalism doesn't work they lie to high heaven in whatever mode suits them; just as long as they win their argument! My entire experience with these kind of self-righteous, guilt prone individuals is that they lie and lie some more.They know they are lying but they don't care!

Community Liar

The most incredible of all is the Community Liar. This is where a mass of people agree silently and without any overt or noticeable agreement that they are going to lie en masse! This also comes under the title of "lying to oneself".

Mending and Healing a Broken Heart

Moving on is the hardest thing for one's relationship. Even if it lasted for years or even just months, its not easy to leave everything just behind. This is not just like a habit that you can easily forget, its something more than that it prickles when remembered. But as they said, sometimes happiness can be found out in moving on. So people who are heart broken out there, look on the other side and stand up. There are a lot of things to cherish than crying for a person who had broken your heart. Here are some things to read on which might help especially for healing and mending a broken heart. I've read this article from Broken-heart-help.com and is very helpful in terms of opening your minds and thoughts in healing and mending a heart. Hope this works for you.

Heart Broken

Many old fictional stories have characters that die after going through a devastating loss. Although even in reality people die from what appears to be a broken heart. Broken heart syndrome is usually blamed for the passing of someone whose spouse is already deceased, even though the actual cause is not always so clear. The condition can be triggered by sudden emotional stress caused by a traumatic breakup, the death of a loved one, or even the shock of a surprise party.

Broken Heart syndrome is clinically different from a heart attack because the patient have few risk factors for heart disease and were previously healthy prior to the heart muscles weakening. The recovery rates for those suffering from broken heart syndrome are faster than those who had heart attacks and complete recovery to the heart was achieved within two weeks.

As Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson states:

As people, we are not aware all the time of our feelings, and just like animals, we may not be able to put words to them very easily. This certainly does not mean that the feelings do not exist.

Sigmund Freud once speculated that a man could be in love with a woman for six years and not know it until many years later. Such a man, with all the goodwill in the world, could not have verbalized what he did not know.

He had the feelings, but he did not know about them. Perhaps this does sound like some sort of paradox. When we think of a feeling, we think of something that we are consciously aware of feeling. As Freud put it in an article written in 1915, The Unconscious: 'It is surely of the essence of an emotion that we should be aware of it.' Yet it is beyond question that we can 'have' feelings that we do not know about.

Health Of Your Heart

Our hearts can be tormented and troubled. They can be squashed and pressured, both from a psychological and emotional point of view. This can be to such a point where they actually begin to result in physical health problems, thus, a broken heart can be considered quite literal. Losing someone you love can cause major problems to our hearts.

Over the course of a life time, most people (at one time or another) will experience a long trial of sadness or loss.

Much research has proven that hearts living under this pain don't just suffer emotionally, they all suffer physically. Deep feelings of depression, loneliness, and sadness can actually lead to problems like heart disease.

Researchers have found that what we all feel and the way we think directly effects the health of our heart. A study showed that people living under this pain can literally even die from a 'broken heart'. It is important to try and overcome the pain so that it doesn't drag on longer than it has to.

Consider the lessons that you have learned, and how you are smarter as a result of the experience. Think about this often, as it will help lift you and let you see some positive signs.

Find a treatment that works for you - this can be talking with those who care about you, other groups of support, perhaps something like psychotherapy or meditation. There are lots of techniques available to help heal your heart.

Get busy doing what it takes to become well!

Begin To Heal

There is nothing funny about having a broken heart. If you are reading this, I am sure you know that. Your stressed body will begin to accumulate all sorts of feelings on top of the depression.

Perhaps you lack positive focus and you are having trouble moving away from looking at the negative, leaving you almost completely unable to function. It is important to try to change this, as in a very direct way we experience the emotions that we focus on.

Here are a few steps to consider:

* Grieve
This is the best thing to do after your loss. Try not to avoid this step. It it best to do it immediately, or it may take you longer to heal. Do whatever you need to do to express yourself in this stage, so long as you don't hurt anyone else.

* The Plan
Healing is a journey that needs a plan. This means that you should write down some ways which (you think) will help you - right now! Think about it, and keep thinking about it.

* The Action
Once you have written down some things, make specific plans to act on them soon - and stick to it!

* Suggestions
Accept that you are responsible for your own healing, and take as much time as you need for yourself.

Take action when you are inspired.Forgive people and recognize that we take in what we focus on. This concept is recognized by some people as the law of attraction.

Do not hang around people who make you feel negative or people who complain all the time. Perform any spiritual work that feels right to you, perhaps include affirmations and visualizations. Be grateful.

Heal A Broken Heart

It takes time! Here are some basic tips. Make sure you also read the articles, which you can access from the side menu.

* Honor how you are feeling. This means that you should not pretend that you are ok, when you really aren't. There is nothing wrong with crying.

* Communicate with people that care about you. Make sure you share how you are feeling. Do not underestimate the support that these people can provide.

* Exercise regularly and take care of your health. Often times during the period of having one's heart broken, health may be neglected. If you aren't careful, this can only make things worse.

* Some people like to travel.

* A great way to move through a broken heart is to spend a lot of time doing something you really love. This can be a hobby, work, or anything! If you keep yourself busy you will find yourself moving through the pain faster.

Above all, give yourself time. This type of healing can't be rushed. If you want to restore the relationship, make sure that you figure out why it went wrong before you rush back into it.

Identity Theft Crisis

its alarming now a days that identity theft is starting up again. With the economy crisis that different countries are experiencing, the rise of this act has seamlessly increasing. In the recent article that Yahoo featured, there was this 28 year old man who got caught with such act and was said stole 130m credit numbers. You can click on this LINK to see the article made by DEVLIN BARRETT, Associated Press Writer Devlin Barrett, Associated Press last Mon Aug 17, 6:57 pm ET for the said identity theft.

On the other hand, i have this educational ideas from Spamlaws, which gives out an educational statistical data about identity theft and how it had been affecting the monetary and some effects of this problem. According to Spamlaws, there was as large as 10 million Americans a year are becoming victims of this identity theft. Based on the 2003 and 2004 study, this data was compiled and analyzed in the so called "The Aftermath Study" to study and deliver to the public the effects of this crime and type of this crime.Here are some information that i got from this website.

Discovery of Victimization

• 38-48% of victims find out about the identity theft within 3 months of it starting
• 9-18% of victims take 4 years or longer to discover that they are victims of identity theft

Time Involved in Being a Victim

• Victims spend from 3 to 5,840 hours repairing damage done by identity theft. This difference is due to the severity of the crime - for example a lost credit card versus the use of your social security number to become your "evil twin." The average number of hours victims spend repairing the damage caused by identity theft is 330 hours.
• 26-32% of victims spend a period of 4 to 6 months dealing with their case and 11-23% report dealing with their case for 7 months to a year.
  

Monetary Costs of Identity Theft

• 40% of business costs for individual cases of identity theft exceed $15,000. The Aberdeen Group has estimated that $221 billion a year is lost by businesses worldwide due to identity theft
• Victims lose an average of $1,820 to $14, 340 in wages dealing with their cases
• Victims spend an average of $851 to $1378 in expenses related to their case
  

Practical and Emotional Costs of Identity Theft

• 47% of victims have trouble getting credit or a loan as a result of identity theft
• 19% of victims have higher credit rates and 16% have higher insurance rates because of identity theft
• 11% of victims say identity theft has a negative impact on their abilities to get jobs
• 70% of victims have trouble getting rid of (or never get rid of) negative information in their records
• 40% of victims experience stress in their family lives as a result of displaced anger and frustration over the identity theft
• 45% of victims feel denial or disbelief
• 85% of victims anger and rage
• 45% of victims feel defiled by the identity thief
• 42% of victims feel an inability to trust people because of the identity theft
• 60% of victims feel unprotected by the police
  

Uses of Victim Information

• More than one third of victims report that identity thieves committed cheque account fraud.
• 66% of victims' personal information is used to open a new credit account in their name
• 28% of victims' personal information is used to purchase cell phone service
• 12% of victims end up having warrants issued in their name for financial crimes committed by the identity thief
  

Impostor Characteristics and Relationships to the Victim

• 43% of victims believe they know the person who stole their identity
• 14-25% of victims believe the impostor is someone who is in a business that holds their personally identifying information
• The most common reported perpetrator in cases where a child's identity is stolen is the child's parent
• 16% of identity theft victims are also victims of domestic harassment/abuse by the same perpetrator. These victims believe that the identity theft is used as another way for the abuser to continue and demonstrate his harassment and control.
  

Responsiveness to victims

• Overall, police departments seem to be the most responsive to victims of identity theft, with 58% taking down a report on the victim's first request
• 1/3 of victims have to send dispute information repeatedly to credit reporting agencies
• Only 1/5 of victims find it easy to reach someone in a credit reporting agency after receiving their credit report
• 20% of victims will have the misinformation and errors removed from their credit report after their first request for the credit reporting agency to do so
  

hope we could get a better resolution for this crime so we could always protect our personal information and not to be used for some stupid acts.

Sentiments and Confusion

lately I am on a downside part of my job. I've been receiving a lot of demotivating ideas going around my head and it seems like it wont go through. I've been totally drained out of my job and been hysterically devastated with the transition of our team to a different people who will handle us. First impressions do really last cause i really don't like who ever those people with us now. on the previous month, I was motivated to show off the best what I've got, but lately now I am more than willing and motivated to bring down my score.

My teams are very much happy, with how I look at them, with the new team lead we have but only I could give out a fake smile and happiness with my team. I find everything here unfair with the so called new team we have and would be more than willing to be terminated if given so. I've been reacting like this so much because i can no longer bear the agony of acting nothing and acting like nothing had gone wrong and everything is doing right on my part. i wanna shout out loud that i don't like everything that's happening on our team but because they are in the "POSITION", my respect always come first to them

now I am looking back to myself reflecting, i could have been one sided. i think I am just whining out not doing anything but i know i am. i know i have been respecting the same way i did before with our previous team lead. and I am pretty sure i am doing all my best to help out with the team but i don't know if maybe because of the thing we called "ARROGANCE" is blocking the way making me act like this.

Citibank Scandal with Subtitle

this makes our job very hard.

Patience Weakness

got my mind boggled lately. thinking about the last few days of my shift and still doing the same thing, which is being irritated. i am afraid that i might lose my job because of what im doing letting patience get over to your brain and letting emotion manipulate the actions that your doing. im a patient person, yes i know, how long? thats still a question i cant even answer. well, there is no patient man in the world after all.

Inevitable Me

have that feeling that you woke up in the wrong side of the bed, making your head ache like it never did before and even making your body feel the pain that you haven't had before after working for how many hours and days? I'm talking about being burned out. that's what I'm experiencing right now. i thought i was superman who is inevitable with stress or fever. now this lesson is about to be learned and charged to experience. but i can still work though even with this one. hopefully i can still be the best of me even with this one.