Dec 9, 2009

How to Catch a Liar

Inspired with the post below, I looked for an article how to catch a Liar. This is helpful and pretty obvious, if your observant with the people around you and or had talked to that had lied. Got this one from AOL Health written by Robynne Boyd.

Liar, Liar?
Pinocchio wasn't very good at it. And neither are most of us. There are dozens of verbal and non-verbal cues that suggest a person is fibbing, says Bella DePaulo, PhD, a psychologist specializing in relationships. So if you can handle the truth, here are the signs that are as obvious as Pinocchio's nose.

1.) Cause for Alarm

Ever heard your guy start a sentence by saying, "The truth is," or "Let me be honest with you"? If so, an alarm should go off in your brain. Anyone who has to preempt a sentence by saying they're not going to lie to you, has already littered the conversation with lies, or is about to begin.

2.) Eyes Wide Open

If your wife says she can't remember how she spent that $200, search her eyes for the truth. It's not as noticeable as a twitch or a blink, but when someone is hemming-and-hawing, their pupils can dilate dramatically. "This suggests that liars are more tense than truth-tellers, that they are thinking harder, or both," explains DePaulo.

3.) The Sound of Silence

Your best friend tells you how great her date was last night, but you heard she was stood up. When you meet, she mumbles a few words about her date and falls silent. The total amount of time a fibber speaks falls short of someone who's speaking honestly. The reason? Liars tend to supply fewer details, so their stories seem incomplete or don't add up.

4.) Fever Pitch

"Sorry, honey, I have to work late again tonight." In truth, he's off to share a brew with the boys. But there's nothing like the nagging fear of being caught to rattle his good time. You can actually hear it in his voice. If he's lying, he'll talk in a higher pitch than usual. The change-up is caused by the tension in his vocal chords.

5.) Lip-locked

You've watched their eyes and heard their voice. When searching for untruths, don't forget the mouth. Lips can reveal a lot about a person. According to DePaulo, liars are more likely to press their lips together due to stress and tension in the face. Fibbers also tend to raise their chins as they speak, making them seem cocky.

6.) Add It Up

There's truth to the notion that if a story doesn't add up, it's made up. For example, your friend at work tells you he has to move to save money. But his new place is even more expensive. What? Only later do you find out his wife is pregnant. When the facts in a story just aren't as compatible, it's time to start doubting.

7.) Broken Record

"Sorry I'm late, but I had a flat tire. Really, you wouldn't believe it. My tire was so flat." Repeating parts of a fabricated story over and over doesn't make them any more factual. Liars are more likely to repeat words and phrases, says linguist Cati Brown of the University of Georgia. "Repeating the same phrase is usually a sign that a person has rehearsed their conversation," says Brown.

8.) Hemming and Hawing

"There's a difference between fluid speech and language punctuated with modifiers such as ums, ahs and eers," says Brown. This kind of hedging is compatible with being deceptive. Still, an 'um' here or an 'ah' there are also perfectly normal space fillers. They are best used as deception detectors when they come at you fast and furiously.

9.) Devil's in the Details

Fibbers aren't even enticed by their own yarns. Ever had your man tell you that he can't make this weekend with your parents because he "has plans." When you ask for details, he's just not that convincing. In fact, liars generally use fewer illustrators, such as hand gestures, that emphasize their words. How it that important? It demonstrates a lack of conviction and yearning to convey their point.

Hope this would be helpful for everybody.

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